How Much Do You Punish Yourself?


There's a conversation in my head, and I'm not the one controlling it!

Have you ever had a day like that?

I don't think that there is anyone else in this world who can punish yourself as much as you do.

Am I right?

Has your inner chatter ever sounded something like this:

~ Why did you do that? That was dumb?

~ What were you thinking?

~ I can't believe you didn't finish your list for the day!

~ Don't dream that big. It is never going to happen!

~ Do you really think people are going to want to buy from you?

Maybe your words don't sound exactly the same, but I'm sure if you pay attention, you can find yourself saying some pretty nasty stuff.

This weekend, I found myself biting off more than I could chew. I had big and ambitious goals to finish on my "to do" list, and found myself at the end of the weekend, unfinished.

I made a commitment to updating my blog post every Sunday and Wednesday evenings. Well, if I must pat myself on the back, I've been doing pretty good at keeping that commitment.

That is until last evening. I just couldn't make it happen. I had a headache and was completely exhausted from working all weekend.

What did I do? I let it go.

I knew that I would find some time today to make it happen, so I chose to hold off.

When I made that decision, I heard myself saying things like, "I knew you couldn't keep up with it," or "You might as well just give up now."

For some reason, I was pretty aware of what my thoughts were, and I didn't let them affect me. I paid attention to them, without having any type of emotional attachment to them.

I made a conscious decision to not write last night. And I was okay with it. That decision didn't mean that I lost my commitment to my business. It just meant that I needed to take care of myself, so I could bring more of myself into my business.

There are times as business owners when we can't get it all done. Beating ourselves up over it, isn't going to help. That kind of self talk is only going to make you less motivated.

Make your decisions consciously and stand firm in your decisions. Don't let anyone, especially yourself, tell you that it is wrong, or you should just give up.

You didn't work this hard, or come this far to let anyone tell you that you can't do it!

Accept that there will be days that you don't get it all done, and move on.

Notice the inner chatter and keep going.

It's there and it will always be there. How you let it affect you – well only you can decide that!

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