So I’m curious – as a business owner do you ever stop and wonder why in the heck you are doing what you do?

I mean the stress, the worry, the long hours – is it really worth it?

I can’t tell you how many times that I’ve had this conversation with myself. From typing up an emailimageedit_3_9491835653 to my list to creating a marketing plan – some days it feels like none of it makes sense.

I mean seriously – how many emails do you receive in your inbox everyday from other business owners – claiming that their method is THE method to get you the “blank” that you desire (life, business, body, ect)?

So, how in the heck are we supposed to bring our passion out through all that noise? How can we share our unique skills, gifts and talents when it already feels like there is so much stuff out there?

I had this conversation with myself last week. As I was preparing to have a business training – the first one I’ve done in months, I found myself feeling deflated and frustrated that only about 30 people signed up for the training. I mean when I help my clients – they have hundreds if not thousands sign up.

After I stopped feeling sorry for myself – I really started to listen to what I was saying to myself.

“If you only have 30 people signed up, you will never have more than 3 on the call live.”

“If only 3 people are on the call live, no one will want to have a consult with you.”

“If no one wants to have a consult with you – than WTF are you doing this for.”

Then came the really hateful self talk …

“Why would anyone want to show up and listen to you anyway?”

“Who do you think you are?”

“You don’t really know what you are talking about, so no wonder people aren’t signing up.”

YIKES – talk about a WTF moment. Seriously!

It is amazing to me the hateful things we say to ourselves. Would we ever in a million years say anything like that to anyone else?


Lucky for me, I was paying attention. I noticed what I was doing and took a deep breath and turned the hatred into gratitude.

I had 30 people signed up for the call – THE MOST I’VE EVER HAD!! I didn’t care if any of them showed up live. I had a message I wanted to share and I was going to share it one way or another.

What happened?

I had about 10 people show up live and over half of the people that signed up listened to the replay. I had fantastic conversations with attendees and even had some people sign up for consults afterwards.

Was it a success?

In my book it was a huge success!!

To someone else – maybe not so much.

The point I’m trying to make is – you define your own success, as well as how you are going to get there. Having 30 people sign up for a call may be a disappointment for some people, but for others it may be a success.

It is so easy to compare where we are in our business with where others are in theirs. We quickly define our level of success by comparing what success means to someone else.

Sure having a 6-figure business is a great goal. However, since I am not there yet – does that mean I am not successful?

The point of all this –

Stop comparing yourself to others and define what success is to you – so you can celebrate each and every one that comes your way!!!

How about you – what success are you ready to celebrate? Share it below – I’d love to hear them 🙂




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